Get in the game

If a man is a whore, he's not going to stop being one for you. It has nothing to do with how smart and pretty you are; it has to do with his mentality regarding intimacy. Not all guys sleep around, but most do compared to women. Nonetheless, if you feel there's a possibility for a real connection, proceed with logic, not emotion.

I don't care what anyone says. Men don't like overly needy chicks. They find it a hassle to keep up with you and become overwhelmed, losing interest. When you pull back and let him lead, they feel a sense of control that encourages them to make the first move. Don't text him if you want him to reach out, period. This is non-negotiable. Expressing gratitude is more than enough if he’s paying for dates and entertainment.

When a man wants something, he will apply pressure, especially when it comes to a woman. If a man is confident enough to believe he's worthy of your time, he will reach out and talk to you again. It's almost like their ego tells them, "You can have her if you want," and it becomes their life purpose to fulfill their ego's desires. Sad but true.

He shouldn't know what you're thinking. It works to be utterly unphased by his credentials, job, or appearance. He will then do anything to impress you, which is a crucial indicator that he's into you.

Make it known that your time is valuable so he respects your boundaries from the jump. Not blowing up his phone reassures him that he's not unique and that your life doesn't revolve around him.

You may enter a relationship stage where you do a couple stuff without a label. This includes having sex, going on dates, meeting each other's families, opening up, and more. Be careful how you proceed from here because you could lure him in for good or repel him quickly.

You may want to ask him, "What are we?" "what's going on here?"The truth is, he will not tell you how he feels about you; he will show. If he develops feelings for you, he's going to make it known that he wants to be exclusive because the thought of you being touched by another man makes his skin crawl. He'll begin to react to things you do that irritate him—like going out with your girlfriends and posting stories of you guys flirting with boys.

The more you don't give a fuck, the more he will. Pay attention to him, but only entertain him if he's spending good money on you.

Remember that if you let your guard down entirely and treat him differently because he's proved to you that he's a "good guy," you risk giving up your power. He will show his true colors when he knows you are wrapped around his finger. If you don't stand on your morals, especially after intimacy, he'll believe you never truly cared about them in the first place.

He will believe that he can pull whoever he wants if he pulls someone like you. It's your job to prove him wrong. Reassure your partner of your unwillingness to tolerate nonsense so your dynamic feels less like a game.

Unless, of course, you want to play games—which is more fun anyway.

Yours truly, <3

David