People never do things once

When a repetitive pattern occurs in your life, it's for a reason. Perhaps you lack self-control or genuinely enjoy participating in activities that work against your well-being. Nonetheless, when someone does something you don't like, and vice versa, justifying the action with the "omg, I'm so sorry. It was just this once" fixes nothing. People who lack skills in accountability will often run from the problem rather than fix it. We've all been there.

This applies to friendships, relationships, vices, finances, and lifestyle. If you know something is wrong with you and continue to act on your impulses knowing the outcome; it exposes more about your character than anything else. It means you're untrustworthy, lack discipline, and fear confrontation.

It's easy to disregard your problems and not face the eerie emotions causing your demise, but it's necessary. I've grown sick of hearing the excuses of others and my own when dealing with the truth. It's something I no longer have the patience for. Only when you look for a solution within yourself do you discover what needs to be done to change.

Remember that people get away with what you allow them to. If you do something aware of the harm it'll cause the other person or yourself, don't be a coward and excuse yourself by saying it won't happen again because you knew exactly what you were doing the first time. Ask yourself why you end up in the same place every time. Sometimes, we mistreat people or ourselves because we've been let off the hook once before.

If your partner cheats on you and says, "It was just one time," they're lying. It will happen again, and they've certainly done this before. Making excuses for our wrongdoings is part of our nature because we don't want to look bad or compromise our reputation. However, when you're intertwined in a cycle of bullshit you created for yourself, it's hard to accept you're the problem.

 The more you come up with excuses for your toxicity, the more your self-awareness dissipates, and that can be detrimental to your psyche. You won't evolve into the person you're meant to be if you engage in acts that work against you and your desires, and you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

It's difficult to see people for who they are, but when you respect yourself enough not to tolerate other people's crap, you send the message that your peace will not be disturbed.

People will do whatever they want regardless of what others say, and so will you. However, if we build enough stamina to endure the reality of our circumstances, our problems will be manageable as we evolve. We won't need to engage in the same mindless acts because we're smart enough to avoid the consequences.

As humans, making mistakes is inevitable. However, your mistakes only define you if you continue to repeat them.

Yours truly ,

David